My boyfriend and I have been dating for eight months. We both work and usually split expenses 50/50, which I was totally fine with at first. But I've started noticing something whenever we go out to eat. He'll order an appetizer, a main dish, a few drinks, and dessert. I usually just get one meal.

Last week our bill was $126. My food was around $35 but he still expected me to pay $63. So I suggested we just start paying for what we actually order. He got offended and said couples shouldn't be counting every dollar. Which is kinda funny considering he's the one who always insists on splitting everything exactly 50/50. I don't mind sharing expenses, but I also don't think I should keep paying for food I didn't eat.

Do I bring it up again or just stop going out to restaurants with him if we're splitting the check?

I just moved into a place with my boyfriend of almost 3 years. We are both on the lease. He had a job when we signed but it was a temp job and it ended. He had been employed full time for the first year and a half of our relationship but then moved to be with me and had a hard time finding work. It’s a tough job market where I live. He’s been looking for work and I know he has because I see the applications but hasn’t found work yet.

He has about 8k saved up and at first didn’t want to pay the deposit and rent until he got a new job but I put my foot down and he paid it. Now he doesn’t grocery shop or anything and I’m buying all the food.

First, I’m ok with temporarily one person in the relationship carrying the load while the other one is down. He is kind has seen me through dark times and we love each other. But I feel like what started out as me being understanding and patient has turned into him feeling entitled.

Ok, on to what happened tonight. I have been getting delivery meals for a while and they were supposed to be for me but then he started eating them too. Part of why I got them was because I’m so tired of working all day, going grocery shopping, then coming home and cooking, then cleaning up. He would help sometimes but it can take some prodding to get him to help.

I work full time and he doesn’t so last night I proposed that he at least start to cook them since I’m paying for them. He complained that he didn’t like cutting up vegetables.

I came home today from work and the errands I thought he would have done weren’t done. He had been playing video games. We got in a heated convo about it.

I got home from work and he was starting one of the meals and I was happy he was doing it. I grabbed another one of my meals to make because I wanted to make enough so my son had something to bring to lunch tomorrow so I didn’t have to go grocery shopping. I was exhausted and tired so when mine was done I was excited to eat. Even though he had started earlier than me, the meal he was making still hadn’t been cooked. Just as I was about to eat, he said it was time for me to cook the steak from his meal. I said no, that’s your meal you’re cooking. He got upset and said he didn’t know how to cook steak. He knows we have a meat thermometer with literal directions on it. The meal kit comes with directions with pictures. I told him I’m going to eat and if he wants to eat he can cook the steak.

I played the meal for my son and I and we ate. I went into the kitchen to fill my water and he was sulking and told me he didn’t even want the steak and he wanted the meal we ate.

I told him he could also have the leftover pizza I bought or the tamales I bought that were in the fridge. He complained.

I lost it. I remembered that last night even though I was so hungry and wanted to eat my meal delivery kit I let him have the second serving and my son of course had one so I just ate soggy leftovers. I’m a single mom used to living paycheck to paycheck and it’s only recently I’ve had breathing room but I’m loosing my breathing room because of this man who requires so much financially and gives very little in return. Everything he does it’s like he wants a gold star for. If I ask him to break down boxes that is literally all he will do all day and then he will make sure to bring up that he broke down the boxes. Yet I’m over here doing the laundry, buying our furniture, paying for uhail trucks, paying for food, groceries shopping, being a parent, and working full time. And he’s at home all day and could do so much but he does the bare minimum.

I want to kick him out but he’s on the lease. What do I do? I feel like a total idiot. I used to read these threads and get so annoyed and just tell the stupid ladies to leave their scrub parasite man. And here I am.

I wish I was joking…

So my boyfriend went to a bachelor party this past weekend, and last night he was showing me some pictures and videos from the night because apparently things got pretty wild.
I was laughing at first until he showed me a video of him getting a lap dance from one of the dancers.
I literally felt my stomach drop because I recognized her face immediately.

IT WAS MY FUCKING MOM 😭😭😭

For context, I haven’t seen my mom in almost two years because of her drug addiction. We barely have contact anymore, and my boyfriend has never met her. He’s heard a lot about what happened with my family, but he wouldn’t recognize her if he walked past her on the street.

Apparently, she goes by a different name at the club, and since he’s never met her, there was no way he could have connected the dots, I’m not like upset with my boyfriend or anything but… I haven’t told him.

This whole situation is making me uncomfortable and idk what to do, or what to say 😭😭😭

Someone please help.

7 years ago I lied about losing my virginity.

At around 15 during a sleepover naturally the topic of virginity and sex came up. One by one everyone was asked if they were a virgin or not. Surprisingly, everyone in the room answered “yes”. When the question got to me, before I could even think, I stupidly blurted out “no”. There was some silence and then an “I KNEW IT!!” and “I didn’t think so” from a few girls. During the split second of silence I was going to say “ nah i’m just kidding” but something about that “I knew it” and “I didn’t think so” made me feel like I was the shit. I felt this pressure to keep up the “cool girl” persona all of them viewed me as and I think that’s why I lied. For the first time in my life, I was ahead of everyone and I had done something they hadn’t. Obviously I had to make up a story quick and fast and I did just that. Without missing a beat I made up a story about how I lost my virginity earlier in the year and that it “wasn’t a big deal so I didn’t tell anyone”. I memorized every detail of the story and regurgitated it every time the topic came up.

Fast forward a few months, only one girl from that sleepover and I remained friends and I integrated her into my other friend group.
Somehow the topic of MY virginity came up between her and a guy friend in the group while I wasn’t around (still have no idea how this came up) and he said “well she’s a virgin” and my friend obviously defends me with what she thinks is the truth and says “no she’s not she told me the whole story”. I don’t know what this guy had against me but he made it his mission that night to “expose” me.
He found his perfect way in through a game of truth or dare where when I chose truth he asked “who did you have sex with?” Here I went with my bullshit story all over again except this time I was older and telling it to 10 pairs of eyes who all individually already had 5+ bodies. It was humiliating to say the least but I doubled down and was adamant that it DID happen.

Anyways, years later I am no longer friends with any of them (sometimes run into them at social gatherings) except the girl from the original sleepover. We are adults now and I have since gotten a boyfriend. My friend and I now live in different states and she’s coming to town next week where she will meet my boyfriend in person for the first time. If I had found a right time over the years I would have come clean but the opportunity never came. I feel like my lie has gone too far and I am so scared that somehow the topic will be brought up. My boyfriend knows that he took my virginity, but my friend is still under the impression that I lost it 7 years ago in the back of someone’s truck at a fucking new year’s party.
If she mentions it, he will think I lied to him, and she will know I lied to her.

Please help me save myself from the embarrassment. How do I do damage control on this? A stupid lie I made to fit in during high school is haunting me

Edit: I truly do not believe she would bring it up in any malicious way, more so a passing comment. We haven’t seen each other in person in almost 2 years so I expect some reminiscing of our teen years and it may come up. Yes, it would be weird if she brought it up like directly, I don’t think that’s going to happen. I don’t know, maybe i’m overthinking it all.

been working here for almost 3 years and this is how i find out i'm getting replaced lmao

apparently they were gonna tell me on friday but still expected me to train the new girl on monday like nothing happened

the "remain professional" part actually sent me

i genuinely don't even know what to say to this man anymore

57M here. I do not have any friends to share this with so I'm just writing this here to get it off my chest. My Aunt Dottie ( mother's sister) was a nun who just passed away. She had been very sick for the last two months. When I visited her on her deathbed, she made a confession that has turned my reality upside down. She told me that she was my actual biological mother and not my aunt. That infact, the woman whom I thought to be my mother was my aunt all along. She said that she had gotten involved with some Russian soldier who impregnated her during the Vietnam war when she was providing front-line medical care and sheltering refugees .Since she was a nun, if word got out about this, it would have been a matter of great shame for the family because she had basically broken her sacred vows of being a nun. So my aunt decided to adopt and raise me as her own child. When i confronted my aunt about this, she was reluctant to admit the truth initially but she eventually corroborated the story. It's like my whole life was a joke. I feel like I've been stabbed in the heart. How much more betrayal can I take?

My( 24F) fiance (24M) will not stop farting

I need advice. As the title states my(24F) fiancé (24M), literally will not stop farting. He farts non stop. Sometimes he doesn't even realize he's farting until he's mid fart. It's disgusting honestly. I understand that it's a normal bodily function but this is non fucking stop. I've tried talking to him about it but he doesn't care! He thinks it's hilarious! It's so bad that i literally lose my appetite because he will fart while I'm eating. He will purposely turn his ass towards me just to fart. I'm at my wits end. It's disgusting. And it's smells so fucking bad. Like something crawled up there and died. And it's fucking loud! Loud enough to wake him up from sleep and loud enough that our cats run away! There was a time when my sister and I were outside the house, near where the bedroom was, and I kid you fucking not we heard him fart so loud. I wish I was fucking joking. He leaves for the military next month and as much as I want to be sad about it, I'm not! I'm so fucking excited for him to be gone so that I won't have to deal with his ass. I love him. I truly do. But this is disgusting. I just need advice honestly. I've brought up seeing a doctor but he refuses. Has anyone dealt with anything like this before???

TLDR: my fiancee farts so much and it's driving me insane

my fiancé is a very heavy sleeper, and he does odd things when half asleep.

he’ll randomly scoot to the end he of the bed and just sit up. he will sometimes eventually end up just falling off the bed and sleeping on the floor from this.

not a big deal, right?

well, just about an hour ago, he did that same thing again, but when i tried waking him up, he stood up and was stretching. his eyes were partially open, so im not sure if he was asleep fully, or half asleep, or what, but he did something he was NEVER done before.

he genuinely pissed on me and our puppy 😭 i kid you not. he acted like he was at the toilet, normal routine peeing. but it got on me, our poor puppy, and our bed.

i was so confused, i yelled “what the fuck are you doing?!” and he looked genuinely confused. i didn’t know what to say or do, so i told him to lay back down and he did. i cleaned everything up and showered and bathed our puppy.

i just don’t know what to do about this. i thought this sleeping habit thing of his was silly, and it become normal routine, until that last part. i realize now that it’s an actual issue now and im not sure if this will happen again, or if it could lead to worse or more weird things. i’m not sure what this is or what to do.

EDIT: ive gotten a lot of sleep study recommendations, so ive talked to him about it now, so him and i are going to set that up. but until then, is there anything we can do to prevent him from doing this? if it continues to happen, i can NOT be washing sheets and mopping the floor AND our puppy every day…

I cannot get over this crush I have on my coworker. At first I tried really hard to ignore it and I was doing well. He’s not my type at all! (I think) but then my coworker told me she thought we were flirting..and now I can’t get it out of my head. He’s also super nice to everyone so I can’t tell if he’s flirting, he’s very professional so I don’t think he’d ever let that slip.

What do I do! I feel like he doesn’t even know I exist outside of work. Our office is tiny so it would be incredibly inappropriate to date (the company doesn’t have strict rules, but still it’s corporate) and I don’t want to make him uncomfortable by shooting my shot.
I would even be okay with dating in secret like I really wish we could…

I know I’m not staying at this job forever, I want to leave sometime next year. But this is TORTURE!!!

Do I risk it and shoot my shot (maybe at our next work happy hour see how he acts towards me?) or just torture myself until I leave this place? UGH.

Also for context - I haven’t dated in four years. It is very very rare that I actually like a man. Like VERY rare. So this is killing me, this legit never happens!

I told my friend something personal because I trusted her and made it clear I didn't want anyone else knowing. Recently, some else brought it up in conversation, and I realized my friend had been talking about it behind my back. I feel embarrassed and honestly a little stupid for trusting her. I haven't confronted her properly yet because I'm not sure if I'm overreacting of if this is a reason to distance myself. Should I bring it up or just let the friendship fade?

ive been in a relationship with this guy for a year and although that might sound like a long time for a lot of people (including him) it is very reasonable to break up as early as possible because i told him i lost feelings like 2 months after dating and its been a year now. ive tried to break up with him face to face and he agreed but he still found his way into my life again and started to contact my friends & family to get back with me. even stalked me one time to talk to me again and get back together. and he would blame me for this relationship and tell me that im breaking his heart but i genuinely don’t want this anymore. we’re still together because i have no other choice i don’t know how to get tf out of this relationship without him dragging other people into our business or mentally harassing me or stalking me or blowing up my phone
unfortunately blocking didn’t work and he keeps talking about marriage and having kids even tho i don’t want any of this, and i tell him taht i don’t want any of this but he keeps telling me that with time im gonna change my mind. i was thinking of moving out of the city but im scared he’s gonna find a way to find me.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for two years, and honestly, I’m starting to get tired of how things have been going in our relationship.
I turn 23 on Friday, and I’m also starting school on Sunday for my bachelor’s degree in Cybersecurity and Information Assurance. I’m entering a new chapter of my life, but my relationship has been weighing on me heavily.
For the past two years, it feels like our relationship has been going downhill. She keeps doing the same things despite the conversations we’ve had and the promises she’s made to change.
For example, she’ll go out with her friends and sometimes not come home until the next morning. I’ve spent two years asking her to respect our relationship, communicate with me, and at least give me a heads-up when she plans to be out that late. I worry about her because the world can be a dangerous place, but I also feel disrespected when she disappears for hours without communicating with me.
Another issue is that she seems to prioritize her friendships over our relationship. I’ve tried explaining how that makes me feel, but nothing seems to change. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want to feel like a priority in your partner’s life. I’m not asking her to abandon her friends, but I don’t want to feel like I’m always the last option.
We’ve had countless conversations about these issues. We’ll talk, agree to work on things, and promise to do better, but then the same problems happen all over again. It’s become a cycle of arguing, making up, and repeating the same behavior. At this point, I’m struggling to believe anything will actually change because her actions don’t match her words.
Lately, she’s also been lying to me, which has made things even harder. I feel betrayed, and I’m honestly not sure how much more I can take.
The difficult part is that I genuinely love this girl. We’ve talked about getting married, having kids, and building a life together. We’ve even discussed names for our future children. I pictured a future with her, and letting go of that is painful because I’ve invested two years of my life into this relationship.
Part of me feels like I should leave, especially because I’ve been asking for the same changes for two years without seeing any real improvement. But another part of me keeps holding on, hoping she’ll eventually change and become the partner I need her to be.
I don’t know if I’m being foolish for staying or if I’m giving up on someone I genuinely love. I’m about to start school and enter a new chapter of my life, and I don’t want to keep carrying this stress with me.
For those of you who have been in similar situations, what would you do? Should I finally let go, or is this something worth giving another chance? I think I just need some outside perspective because I honestly don’t know what to do anymore.

i don't really know what to do. i really love him. we clicked so well, we were so alike. the first person i've been my true self around. someone i can be vulnerable around. as an autistic girl that is all i've yearned for.

the past week i've been having nothing but bad/negative dreams. tonight i had a dream of him accusing me of cheating on him

(i have not cheated, never will.) but that is something he's very worried about. he brings it up countless times. don't get me wrong, i don't mind reassurance at all. i want my partner to feel at ease and feel like they can trust me.

but i feel like all i do is get accused and then reassure.

it's tiring. it's been almost 2 years now.

his ex called him controlling and insecure. he expressed to me how much he didn't like that. and i understood and respected that. nobody wants to be called that.

but now i feel like i'm starting to understand her.

yesterday we got into an argument about me going out for halloween. he said "i just don't want you walking around with your whole titties and ass out"

keep in mind, i want to go with my parents to watch a parade. why the hell would i wear something like that in front of my parents. or in general. he knows i never dress like that and never will. especially because i know he'd lose his shit

i do not even leave the house. i am anxious to even check my mailbox. i have severe anxiety with the outside world. i'm trying to work on going outside and becoming okay with it.

and i'm worried he may have also contributed to it. because whenever i go out, i'm worried to death about his opinion. any little interaction that happens, and god forbid a man look my way or compliment me, i'm worried sick of how mad he'll be.

he gets extremely defensive and annoyed if i dare to bring up that he's being controlling or insecure. he always thinks that he's completely justified

i'm just getting tired of it after almost 2 years. i've been nothing but extremely loyal. i dedicate so much to him. i give him my social media logins, i reassure him, he has my live location, i show him what im wearing wherever i go, i show him proof i have a
bra on if i go out, all that and he's still not happy. he still accuses me.

i don't know if i can say necessarily "accusing" me. but that's what it feels like. i'm tired of being treated like i'm not loyal when i won't even acknowledge another man and i cover my entire body up. it's still never good enough.

i feel shitty for thinking it but i'm starting to think he *IS* controlling and insecure, and it's starting to drive me up a wall.

the argument only started last night because i finally snapped back and asked him
*why would you even think that i'm going to dress like that?*
he says because that's what all girls do.

i am *so* sick of him saying that.

he constantly blames all women and takes it out on me.

but then he always says he trusts me. then why do you keep comparing me to other women who do stuff you're uncomfortable with? when i never do those things.. and i'm infact the complete opposite and isolate myself.. what is there to even worry about at this point..

he knows i'm horribly anxious, and the longer i don't go outside the more isolated i'll become.

i feel like an asshole for thinking like this and getting tired of it now. i thought he would eventually stop and believe me after almost 2 years of me being nothing but dedicated to him and only him. but i feel like he only gets worse. when i go out or get dressed, all i can think about his him and his opinions. whether he'd be angry or not. whether he'd be okay with it. if a guy interacted with me, god forbid flirted, i would be horribly anxious and feel like throwing up. not just because i don't like interacting with strangers, but because i know my boyfriend is gonna flip.

he takes extreme offense to even the words "controlling" and "insecure" and absolutely loses his mind if i say it. it's like a trigger. when i'm just trying to communicate how i honestly feel. he won't even listen to it if it includes those words.

i really do love him more than anything. but this is pushing me away. on top of him just getting lazy in the relationship. i feel like i'm the only one putting all this effort. even after communicating to him nothing changes.

i hate that this has become a factor of my life.

So my 29f fiancé 33m plays cod idc that he plays it im happy to scroll or read while he does it but he makes sexual comments on there and its an ongoing thing i spoke to him before about the comments and it was towards another woman and i said i felt disrespected by it and he stopped playing for a while that’s not what i wanted him to do and when i said it he said “well what do you want me to do this is how everyone plays” i play too and not once has someone made that comment to me or have I done it to someone else out of respect… am i crazy or is this normal behaviour for someone playing cod? Idc he is in discord groups idc he talks to women on there it crossed boundaries when he’s on there calling someone “good girl” or saying sexual things while he’s playing when I wouldn’t think twice of saying something towards a man that remotely sounds like it could come across as flirting at the least sexual wouldn’t even come into it

Posting on a throwaway account.
Hey guys! I need advice/need to vent. I would like to preface this by saying I know I'm stupid for staying as long as I have. I apologize in advance for the rambling.Anyways to the story.
I've been with my fiance for 4 years. Throughout our relationship he has cheated continuously and has abused me. Slamming me into walls so hard the wall caved, slapping me, choking me, etc. I feel trapped though as he is the breadwinner. He isolated me and manipulated and into quitting my job. I literally have zero dollars to my name. We own a house and have pets together. He's leaving for the military in a month and I think I'm gonna use that time to leave. I know I should have left years ago. I know that. I truly don't understand why I stayed. I feel so stupid. And it's ridiculous because despite all that I still love him! I haven't told anyone in my life about any of this. The closest I've gotten is just telling my sister I want to leave because of recurring issues. I honestly just needed to get this off my chest. And honestly a reality check. I feel so lost.

TLDR: planning to leave my toxic relationship while he's away for boot camp.

My husband and I have been married for two years and together for 8 - we recently welcomed our first baby 5 months ago.

Earlier, we were discussing how crazy time has flown by, how we made it work despite our setbacks. He then proceeded to tell me stories about his childhood, how it was anarchy growing up (for context, his parents are divorced and both re-married). My husband despises his ‘step-dad’ for understandable reasons, like stealing, lying, manipulating etc.

The conversation went on about how my husband didn’t like how soon he was introduced and made to live with his step-dad. So I said, “yeah that must’ve been incredibly stressful, I wouldn’t dare do it that way if we hypothetically didn’t work out!”

I haven’t been thinking about splitting up at all, but rather giving two pence about what I would do in that situation if confronted with it.

My husband responded, with a lot of frustration, that “you keep talking about stuff like that and it’s pissing me off”. I did not think this at all, and I have no idea where he’s coming from.

I feel bad for saying what I said but I didn’t mean anything by it! What do I do?

This is my first ever post on Reddit, so if I get things wrong feel free to tell me.

I (37M) recently found out my ex (33F) we will call her K has had a baby. The thing is that we split up about 9 months ago and it wasn’t great. She wanted a lot more than I was ready for. It caused a lot of issues and I thought it be better to end it early then let it go one and let her think that it has a chance to change anytime soon.
She moved on very quickly after, about a week and a half. Her new bf is a long time friend and I’m happy for them both. It was my choice to leave the relationship and wish them all the best.

I didn’t know anything about the baby, until my friend posted it on Facebook. At first I was thrilled about it for them, as they are happy and my friend deserves that. But after doing the math, something felt off, I realised that it all lined up to our last few days together and the last few times we slept together.

I looked at the photos and realised how much the baby looked not only like myself as a baby but also my two children. She has my eyes and chin (my family has a distinct butt chin 🤣😅). She is ginger like me, but so is my friend so that doesn’t help.

The thought of her being mine and not being part of her life kills me. But if she isn’t mine I don’t want to but in and look like I’m trying to make it about me and or possibly ruining their relationship. I have spoken to my friend, doing the usual congratulations. I then brought it up in confidence and he’s adamant the baby is his.

I’m so torn. I adore my children, and if she is mine, I want to be part of her life too. But I don’t want to over step. I just don’t know what to do.

Update, everyone seems so hostile. I wanted advice, I wasn’t looking for sympathy. I was hoping you all could help me with my own thoughts. I understand that my approach was tactless. My heart ruled my heart.

I’ve told my friend I’ll back off after reading all the comments. I appreciate those who commented seriously whether they were good or bad comments. Though leaving it has broke me, in a way I can’t explain.

I will always be open to her being my daughter. I’m willing to put in the effort if it comes out she is mine.
I’m meeting my friend tomorrow at his request, to talk. We are still friends and I will always see him as such. Even if she is mine, I’ll be lucky to be one of her dads with him.

I am 26F and I have Crohn’s disease. I’ve been married to my husband for two years now and we still haven’t had any kids together. We don’t use protection and we even have sex on my ovulation days, but I still haven’t conceived. I get my period regularly and I have never had any issues with my period coming. I only suffer with bad cramps, but it runs in my family. My mother and sisters have all had bad cramps up until they had children/past 30 years old. There are zero fertility issues in my family. I am very healthy and I don’t smoke or drink. I have asked my GI doctor if Crohn’s disease can affect fertility and he has told me no unless I’ve had some type of surgery which I have not.

My husband is convinced that I am the one who’s infertile just because he has two kids. His kids are 7 & 8. He drinks, he smokes both weed and cigarettes, and he works night shifts which messes up his sleep entirely. He is also pre-diabetic as of recently.

I have checked all my hormones, my ovary health, did pap-smears, ultrasounds, everything. I am 100% fertile. I have yet to meet with my OBGYN about conceiving and what the possible issue could be, but I really doubt that it’s me. I am willing to admit if I am the problem if that’s the case, but so far I’m not.

A part of me does feel like it’s me because I have had a previous partner that I was unprotected with, but I never conceived. I feel like I could potentially be infertile and my husband does make me feel guilty about it since he’s always bringing up that he’s had two kids and has gotten two other women pregnant (they aborted by choice). And he knows about all my test results etc.

I’m not sure what to do. I really want to have children naturally and I don’t think he would be willing to do IVF and to be frank, neither would I. Sometimes I feel like he’s had a vasectomy done without telling me, but then again I wouldn’t be able to know.

What do I do?

For context we’ve been dating for almost 2 and a half years and her dad was diagnosed with cancer around 2 years ago so it’s been relevant for practically our whole relationship but it’s just recently gotten bad and it’s unlikely that he will live much longer. We’re both 17 and within driving distance of each other but I don’t know what to do. I feel awful because I’ve never really had a relationship with him or spoken with him much and now he’s almost unrecognizable and can barely speak and all I want to to is to be there for her and her family but I have never had to be in a situation like this and I don’t know how to go about it.

I’m a 23 year old female. I’m a married college student with no kids and I want to make friends. I live in salt lake county I’m into reading, cozy video games, painting, bedazzling, coloring. I love coffee, shopping (especially thrifting), and I’m down for pretty much everything. Any advice on how to make some friends?

I’m a (22F) and my (23M) boyfriend wants to take a break for 6 months, do I do it?

Hi guys.

My boyfriend and I have been together for a bit over a year now. We were in person since we went to schools near each other but after graduating, we went long distance. I started working a really hard job and it’s been taking a lot of my time. He went back to a masters program immediately after his bachelors and it’s been super time consuming too considering how accelerated it is for him.

It’s gotten to a point where we haven’t been able to properly even date nor communicate as much even via text or calls. Slowly since we went long distance the time in our calls, the amount of texts and all have deceased. I’ve tried bringing up this problem before since I felt like before we left for long distance we didn’t have a proper plan on how to do it. Things got better for a little after that but for the last month or so it’s been really hard and the communication is super bland or basic. It’s hard to feels like we’re nothing more than just friends really.

I asked him again about life and us. And he feels like there’s so much uncertainty in his life right now and so much chaos I guess in mine with how busy my life is with my job (I’m a new nurse). He said that he sees me in his future but just not right now. He wanted to stay friends while he’s figuring things out, trying to pass his classes and graduate again and hopefully get a job. He said that maybe a break till his graduation in May but that would be 5-6 months from now? That also isn’t a guaranteed amount of time since if he doesn’t have a job or anything by then I assume the break would have to be longer until he figures it out.

He also mentioned the typical long distance being hard. But he talked about how a small part of him does only see me as a friend right now. Not romantic. He also said he ‘thinks’ he does love me but he’s just unsure about a lot right now. Also he’s mentioned before about how hard it is to constantly keep up with calling/texting/FaceTime all that with school before so I compromised and we made a plan to schedule our time and set proper time aside for each other but like I mentioned that started slowly diminishing overtime and now it’s barely anything. Is this not enough space already?

I don’t know, I feel like I’ve put in a lot of effort in trying to make this work and I know he at least was trying a bit before. But I feel like 5-6 months is a long time especially considering it’s not a guarantee and so much uncertainty. We haven’t discussed yet what the break would look like if it’s a genuine break up or if it’s like a break, no talking to other women/men, etc.

TLDR: My bf isn’t sure if he fully loves me anymore, struggles with grad school and wants to go on a break till his graduation that isn’t until may (6 months from now) due to life uncertainties but even that date isn’t guaranteed. Do I do it? What would you do?

Any advice is appreciated ):

I’m not really into sex. I don’t do it a lot and I make excuses to my fiance. Headaches, cramps, tummy hurts etc… it’s not that I don’t love him or I don’t find him attractive, I’m head over heels for him. I feel so lucky to have him but he always wants sex and it just doesn’t interest me. It kind of used to but doesn’t anymore, I’m only 23F so it’s not an age thing. Whenever I have sex I just do it to make him happy, I fake everything so that it ends quicker. I feel guilty that it doesn’t make me happy like it makes him happy.

Even going solo it’s just for one purpose and I don’t prolong it. It’s just to get it done. I just feel like something’s wrong with me. All my friends are super sexual and we talk about those things and I can’t help but feel like an outlier so I lie. I just don’t know what to do.

Hey, so me and him (25-24)have been together for 3 years now, we have lived together for 2. He loves cars like they were his family members.We have a customised combi, wrapped, air ride rims ect which i helped build too w my own money. It was stupid i know. Anyway, so now we got into an accident and someone rammed into our car and he’s been acting like someone died. The bigger problem is that his family lives in another country and cant bring the car there cuz the mods aren’t legal there, so we cant really visit much. Now he came up w the idea of selling both our cars and buying an expensive sporty one so its practical and cool, the problem is i don’t wanna put my money into that, i need it for myself. Also turns out even the 2 cars wouldn’t get us enough money for it, and now he’s mad at the world, saying i have to give this up too, it the only thing i have. Why buy one that doesn’t bring me joy. I get having a hobby, but cmon we are ordinary working folk, we cant just buy expensive cars just for the show which he seems to not understand. I feel like when he says all of this, that he’s not happy here not happy with me, and all my efforts were for nothing. Even tho he doesn’t wanna live back home and he’s clearly happy where we live but idk. I matured a lot this year, my priorities have shifted quite a lot, i will be trying to go to UNI soon. I want him to be happy, but he doesn’t even have a high school diploma, and doesn’t wanna study ever again. He has a good salary but not outstanding, its like a comfortable to live, you can buy normal groceries some extra stuff, gas and clothes and go out. But not enough for expensive stuff. So idk what to do what to say how to react.

Now this might seem weird but I have to ask for online opinions as so many people in real life have said this it’s starting to make me think it’s true.

We have been best friends for 6 years and we see each other 2-3 times a week, go gym together and hang out together one on one. We have the best friendship and just get along so so well. People have always said he’s in love with me ect even past boyfriends of mine.

My friend let’s call him (D) has always been single, and never had a girlfriend or gotten with any girls, he’s just sort of a shy ish guy, with not the most amount of confidence. Me and him kissed one time like 5 years ago on a night out with all our friends and since then never again it just wasn’t it.

We are just not really each others types, he’s (6’4) tall with blonde hair and blue eyes, and is English background. I am short (5’1) mediterranean background with dark hair dark eyes and tan skin. We both tend to like people of our own ethnicities with similar traits, yet he has recently said he is now into short dark haired girls.

Now he does lots of nice things for me, he always buys me food, and I of course buy food for him, but he is always offering and refuses to let me pay a majority of the time. He picks me up if I am out late and drives 30ish mins to take me home, he always drives me places if I need, takes me to get my nails done ect. He has bought me clothes on occasion without me asking and has will buy me chocolate when I am on my period ect. I have always chalked this up to him being emotionally super invested in our friendship as his other friends are men, and he doesn’t get to emotionally express himself, as he does with me.

He always says he gets sick of people at his work or his friends asking if he would sleep with me or wants to date me, and he says he would not sleep with me as we are way to good of friends to ruin the friendship. He says he always gets the comments saying he is in love with me, because in his word “I am way more attractive than him” and also have had multiple boyfriends during our friendship when he has had no girlfriends.

He always hypes me up and tells me I look great and he thinks I am really pretty, and I look great, especially in the gym as we both go together. We have super joking friendship and he always says as a joke that my ass is big, as a gym compliment.

We talk about everything, and of course I have told him things about my relationships ect. He says he doesn’t wanna hear about anything sexual from me and we got into an argument about it, as I said he doesn’t care when his guy friends tell him, but it matters when I do. He just kept saying it was gross hearing it from me becuase I am a girl, and he just doesn’t want to hear about what me and my boyfriend do in bed.

Am I being way delusional and in denial or is he just a really good friend?