r/AskAGerman • • May 10 '26

Meta/Reddit Info from the Mod Team: Rule Update

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Hello Community and Happy Mother's Day (to those residing in Germany).

We've worked on new and updated rules, and now we're interested in your opinions.

SIDE NOTE: We've been thinking about a rather rudimentary "verification" system for German nationals (no personal information would be required) to help posters figure out who's actually German and who might not be. This would lead to a user flair like "Verified German." We're currently thinking about having users take a picture of their closed German passport with a piece of paper with their username on it. While this isn't foolproof, it would be pretty easy. Let us know what you think about such a system.

Since many have misinterpreted this part: the verified flair would be an additional flair. The verification system would never be mandatory. It would simply show posters that an answer was posted by somehow who has been verified to be german. Which would make sense in r/AskAGerman. People would still be allowed to comment according to the requirements in rule 2.1. They just wouldn't be verified.

END OF THE SIDE NOTE

THE NEW RULES:

Below are the new rules. These might change, and we're going to take your feedback into account. We hope to finalize the rules by June. Until then, we're going to moderate according to these rules so you get a feeling of what it would be like, as that may impact your opinion on the rules. A more detailed explanation of the rules and examples for them can be found at the end of this post.

1. Who is allowed to post and which requirements need to be met?

1.1 Every individual is allowed to post personal questions. Nonpersonal questions (commercial, academic, ...) need prior approval from the moderators.

1.2 Questions must be about Germany, Germans, or the opinions of Germans. City/state-specific questions do not count as questions about Germany.

1.3 Questions can't be simple yes or no questions. Posts can't be cross-posts.

1.4 If a question can be answered or refined by a quick search (Google, this subreddit, DeepL ...), the poster must do that first.

1.5 Do not ask the same or a similar question repeatedly.

1.6 Questions have to be in English or German.

1.7 Posts must contain a concise question or at least a description of the topic in the title.

1.8 Posts that aren't safe for work (or children) must be marked as "NSFW" / "18+" by using Reddit's setting.

1.9 Posts must be questions. No rants, no ads, no petitions, no surveys, no requests (see Rule 1.1)

1.10 Links must be given in full. No link shorteners, no link masking using Reddit's features.

1.11 Low-quality questions are not permitted.

1.12 Posts can not be created by AI. If you don't know how to ask what you want to ask, people can't answer your actual question.

1.13 Posts that violate our rules regarding banned topics or time-limited topics are not permitted.

1.14 Questions must be made in good faith and should not push political agendas or include opinions.

2. Who is allowed to comment and which requirements need to be met?

2.1 Germans are allowed to answer at any level. Non-Germans who have been living in Germany for at least 180 days a year for at least 5 out of the last 8 years and are at least at a C1 level of German are allowed to answer at any level as well (unless they can't answer the question based on the requirements in the post). Non-Germans who do not meet these requirements are only allowed to: comment to ask for clarification, provide feedback, ask follow-up questions, correct spelling mistakes, or provide sources for/against claims. These comments can't be top-level comments and have to be in response to comments from people in the groups mentioned above. Companies are allowed to answer questions pertaining to them if they've verified themselves before posting.

2.2 Comments can't be created by AI. If you want to answer a question, use your own words.

2.3 Comments must relate to the question.

2.4 Comments can't contain advertisements. "Use my code" is an advertisement. Only mention products or companies if the OP explicitly asks for that.

2.5 Links must be given in full. No link shorteners, no link masking using Reddit's features.

2.6 Comments on English posts must be in English; comments on German posts can be in English or German, depending on the perceived proficiency of the poster. No other languages are allowed.

2.7 Do not spam comments or copy & paste comments. If you feel like you need to reply to multiple comments with the same thing, copy the link to the original comment instead.

2.8 Do not push agendas. Stick to the topic outlined by the initial post. If you're asked for an opinion, you can, of course, voice it, but you need to stick to the question and mark your opinion as such.

3. Behavior

3.1 Insults and other forms of uncivil discourse are not permitted. Against anybody. Even dead people. Yes, even against Hitler. Do not insult other people in this subreddit.

3.2 Trolling is not permitted.

3.3 Encouraging, facilitating, supporting, ... illegal behavior is not permitted.

3.4 Spreading misinformation in this subreddit is not permitted. If you encounter misinformation, report it to the mod team and send us a message (or reply to the post/comment) with a credible source debunking the misinformation.

3.5 Do not share personal information about others in this subreddit unless it is freely accessible and relevant to the topic.

3.6 Do not bring politics into posts that aren't political.

4. Miscellaneous

4.1 Removals and bans are at the moderation team's discretion. We can't possibly cover every edge case. If we feel like a post or comment violates the intention behind our rules or was made to circumvent existing rules, we might remove it and potentially ban the user. Rule changes might be made after encountering these edge cases.

5. Banned topics and topics limited to certain times or days

5.1 All time / date references are from a GMT+2 perspective. Check the time before posting.

5.2 Banned topics: Visa questions are not permitted in this subreddit. Germans typically don't require visas and thus can't help with that. The same is true for the acceptance of foreign degrees and diplomas. Housing questions are typically better suited for local subreddits and have most likely been answered in this subreddit or in the wiki of r/Germany before.

5.3 Time & date limited topics: Political questions are limited to 10am - 6pm on weekends and 6pm - 8pm on Fridays. They're also not permitted on German national holidays and between December 23rd and January 7th.

5.4 Limited day topics: Travel itinerary questions are limited to Mondays (make sure to check Rule 1.2). To qualify as a national itinerary, it has to include at least two German states (without the entry / exit airports). Make sure that you've done some research and planning first; this is not a travel agency. Dating questions are limited to Wednesdays. Job-related questions are limited to Thursdays.

Explanations and Examples:

1.1 If you want to promote your project (if it's free) or find participants for your academic research, ... you need to get approval by the mod team first. If you want to promote your company / paid project / ... you need to find a different subreddit. If you want to start a company, you need to talk to a lawyer. Not to Reddit.

1.2 This subreddit is r/AskAGerman, and thus the average German should be able to answer the question. A minor specialization is acceptable, but that's determined by the moderators. The average German can't tell you the best restaurant in Munich or the best way to get from Berlin Neukölln to Teltow. The average German also can't tell you how to reassemble your car, just because Germany has a well-known car industry.

1.3 Yes or no questions don't really leave room for discussion and tend to be low quality. And if you can't even copy & paste your post into this subreddit, you can't expect people to take time to answer your questions.

1.4 Google exists for a reason, and so does the search function in this subreddit. Make use of the knowledge that already exists.

1.5 Nobody likes spam. You won't get more (useful) replies just because you asked the same questions 5 times.

1.6 This is r/AskAGerman. Whoever is allowed to respond will most likely speak German. They'll most likely speak English as well. But they probably don't speak language X.

1.7 People have a limited amount of time. A clear question enables them to guess whether they'll be able to help or not. You can provide more information in the text box of your post. But if you can't summarize your post into a question or at least a topic, you likely didn't think about it enough.

1.8 NSFW content should be marked as NSFW.

1.9 This is r/AskAGerman. Not rant about Germany or promote your project in Germany.

1.10 Nobody likes sketchy links. If you want people to click on your links, be transparent about where they lead; not everybody is on a PC / laptop.

1.11 Low-quality questions turn community members away from the community, which means that others who have real questions don't get as much support as they could.

1.12 AI is great at generating text, but it does not understand your actual question. If you can't explain it to humans, you can't explain it to AI.

1.13 We strive to adequately moderate this subreddit and to avoid community members being fed up with recurring topics. Thus, time limitations are useful.

1.14 Political questions are fine, as long as they're actually questions and not just "Here is my political opinion in disguise."

2.1 As this is r/AskAGerman, posters are interested in the opinion of Germans. We've seen plenty of comments from people who haven't been to Germany at all or have little to no knowledge about Germany (tourists, short-term immigrants, ...). Replies from these people are not what this subreddit is for, and it can skew the perception people have. Thus, we're limiting answers to Germans and those who should know a lot about Germany even if they might not have gained citizenship yet. Speaking the language is important to become a member of the society. Being in Germany for an extended amount of time is important because it's hard to talk about things that might have changed a decade ago or that are only noticeable after a while. We would also be open to limiting replies to Germans, but we do understand that giving up another citizenship isn't always easy, and sometimes this can make acquiring a new citizenship harder.

2.2 Similar to posts: if you can't answer a question yourself, AI can't answer it either.

2.3 If someone asks you about the weather and you tell them your favorite dish that's not going to help them. Now imagine 20 out of 30 people did that. Answer the question or don't comment. Do not flood comment sections with things the poster never wanted to know.

2.4 Nobody likes ads. At least pay Reddit to show them to users so they can pay their bills.

2.5 Nobody likes sketchy links. If you want people to click on your links, be transparent about where they lead; not everybody is on a PC / laptop.

2.6 People who post in English might not be fluent enough in German to understand German replies. People who post in German but struggle might still appreciate a reply in English, especially if the topic or comment is complex. Other languages are obviously not appropriate, as this is r/AskAGerman, and thus you should know at least one of the two languages that are permitted.

2.7 If we have to moderate your comment or if you need to change it, it's easier to do it once rather than having to do it 10 times.

2.8 Political discussions are always tricky. You're more than welcome to state your own opinion, but acting like it's the only valid opinion and everybody else is stupid doesn't help. And if a post isn't political and you try to act like it is, you're going to violate rule 3.6.

3.1 We want people to have a good time in this community. And when commenting, you represent Germany. Thus, we expect good behavior. If you see a post or comment that violates the rules, report it. But insulting people doesn't help. And because insulting people is bad, we're also extending this to any person. And by "any" we mean any. Chancellors, US presidents, Putin, Xi Jinping, Kim Jong Un, Hitler, Pol Pot, Stalin, Mao, etc. . Factual statements do not count as insults; however, be prepared to prove them. "Hitler was a Nazi" is not an insult. "Trump is a Nazi" is.

3.2 Nobody likes trolls.

3.3 We were surprised that a lot of people thought that encouraging illegal behavior is acceptable. It's not.

3.4 You're allowed to have opinions but mark them as such. If your opinion is stated like a fact that's a problem.

3.5 Doxxing, etc. is illegal.

3.6 While politics are an important topic, there is no need to make a post about the best ice cream political. Yes, prices have gone up, but that doesn't mean we now need a communist revolution to bring prices down.

5.2 We've seen a lot of questions about visas, foreign degrees, moving to Germany for study purposes, etc., and while we're happy that people want to move to Germany, people from your country can tell you more about which degrees are accepted, how long you need to wait for your visa, etc. And we can't tell you which university to choose.

5.3 We want to ensure that political posts don't get out of control, and we can't be on Reddit 24/7. Thus, posts should be done in a time frame where we can moderate them effectively.

5.4 It's great that you want to travel to Germany, but we're not your local travel agency. Do some research first, and we can help you with minor details.


r/AskAGerman • • 15h ago

Miscellaneous Privacy concern

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Looking for an opinion on an unfortunate situation: four of us (me from North America, my Korean wife, and our friends, a Korean couple) ate at a 'beer hall' restaurant in Munich, and when our waiter brought the bill, he added 10% himself to it, despite our objections. We felt harassed and menaced, and our friends, to maintain harmony during the experience, did not object and paid for the meal.

Later I went to leave a review on Google about that restaurant and our experience, and found that several other diners had also been harassed and pressured for a tip. Someone from the restaurant had replied with a 'we're sorry, please contact me at this email address' type of reply, and I wrote about our experience to that email address after leaving my review.

They answered and ultimately refunded the tip. They asked who it was and I described the waiter. I didn't know his name but he had tattoos by which he could be identified. Long story short: for some reason the restaurant provided this individual with my personal details, including my personal email address, by which he now knows my name and address. In addition, it turns out he was suspended from his job; obviously this was not the first time he's harassed tourists for money, and now, though it's unlikely, the possibility of retaliation is there.

My question concerns how personal data is handled in Germany and how it's considered. In my home country, it would be extremely unlikely for the personal details of someone complaining to a company of bad behavior by an employee to be provided to that employee, but in Germany, would there not be similar conventions in place? Putting aside the tip harassment in this case, how would you feel as a German if you had a bad experience at a business, complained about it, and your personal details were provided to the person who caused the bad experience? In my case, this person emailed me as well. A search of my email and name will turn up my home address and as you can imagine a lot of other information about me. Appreciate any answers here.


r/AskAGerman • • 7m ago

Personal Schlüsselübergabe

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I'll be doing the Schlüsselübergabe how does it work? thw Vermieter just checks the apartment and I'll hand over the keys that's it?


r/AskAGerman • • 7h ago

Problems with the heating in my apartment – what can I do?

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Hey everyone,

I’m an international student and recently moved into a private apartment with the landlady and another student. I took the room because finding accommodation was really difficult and my classes are starting soon.

My biggest problem is the heating. The landlady says it only runs from 5–9 am and 5–11 pm because heating is expensive. But according to her, heating costs are already included in the rent.

The problem is that my room still barely gets warm. I’ve tried setting the radiator to 3, 4 and even 5, but there’s hardly any heat. I’m from India and not used to this cold. Sometimes I’m literally shivering in my room.

When we spoke to her about it, she said her previous students never had a problem with the heating. She also said that if we don’t like it, we can leave. But when I first moved in, she told us we had to stay for at least 6 months and give 3 months’ notice before moving out.

I also haven’t received a rental contract yet, and she wants us to leave our bedroom doors unlocked when we go out.

Honestly, I’m a bit overwhelmed and don’t know how things normally work in Germany.

Is this normal? What would you do in my situation? I’d really appreciate advice from other students or people living in Germany.

Thanks!


r/AskAGerman • • 21h ago

American Snacks Germans Like/Want to Try?

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Hi! I’m from the US (nyc) and going to Germany in January. I’m going to be doing a work exchange and stay with a lovely German couple. I want to get them a gift to thank them and was thinking maybe some American treats. Is there anything specific that would be good to bring?


r/AskAGerman • • 2d ago

What’s with organic “bio” food?

72 Upvotes

Hey, I've noticed that my in-laws and German friends really like to mention "Bio" food. Is this just my circle, or are Germans generally very into organic food? Personally, I’m not used to that people are emphasising on the organic so much as them.


r/AskAGerman • • 1d ago

Personal Abmeldung and leaving permanently

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I will be permanently moving outside of Berlin as well as Germany, for now I've done the following and I still have questions regarding the rest would appreciate some clarification please & thank you :

  1. Kündigung for my Apartment

  2. Kündigung of my Job✅️

  3. Abmelden bei Bürgeramt ✅️

  4. Abmelden bei Versicherung ✅️

  5. Abmelden Mobile Contract + Home Internet ✅️

  6. Abmelden Rundfunk ✅️

  7. I asked the Bürgeramt about the Finanzamt they said it'll be done automatically and I called the Finanzamt and they said that I should just do a written letter with a Signature which is weird they don't want proof of Abmeldung from the Bürgeramt.

  8. Vattenfall do I need to send them per email or Kontakt Formular or maybe through the app?

    what else am I missing?

thank you for your help.


r/AskAGerman • • 1d ago

Culture Unheimliche Orte in Deutschland aus dem 19. Jahrhundert oder früher?

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Ich interessiere mich für unheimliche Orte in Deutschland, die eine echte historische Atmosphäre haben. Besonders suche ich nach Orten, die aus dem 19. Jahrhundert oder einer früheren Zeit stammen: mittelalterliche Ruinen, verlassene Klöster, alte Burgen, Beinhäuser, historische Friedhöfe, Orte mit Bezug zu Hexenverfolgungen, lokale Geistergeschichten oder andere Orte mit einer düsteren Vergangenheit.

Mich interessieren vor allem historische Atmosphäre und Folklore, weniger moderne Gruselattraktionen oder kommerzielle Geisterhäuser.

Welche Orte könnt ihr empfehlen? Sie können überall in Deutschland liegen, gerne auch weniger bekannte Orte, die nicht unbedingt auf den üblichen Touristenrouten liegen. Besonders freuen würde ich mich über Empfehlungen mit einer interessanten Geschichte oder lokalen Legenden.

Vielen Dank!


r/AskAGerman • • 1d ago

Culture Halloween Deutschland?

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Hallo! Ich bin neu im Land, ich bin erst seit Kurzem hier, und würde gerne wissen: Was machen die Deutschen eigentlich an Halloween? Geht ihr verkleidet auf die Straße? Oder würde ich mich damit lächerlich machen? Jsjaka

Mich würden die Traditionen und Feiern interessieren, und ich wüsste gerne, was man an diesem Wochenende so unternehmen kann.

Ich bin gespannt auf eure Antworten!


r/AskAGerman • • 1d ago

Personal Was I overcharged €30 for a Vodafone CallYa Allnet Flat S prepaid SIM in Cologne?

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Hi everyone, I'm an international student from India currently studying at the University of Cologne. I arrived here just two days back.

I recently bought a new Vodafone CallYa Allnet Flat S prepaid SIM card from a Vodafone & O2 partner shop called Friends Mobile in Köln-Sülz.

The package advertises:

- 25 GB data with 5G

- Unlimited calls and SMS

- €9.99 every four weeks

- €10 starting credit (as shown on the packaging)

The shop charged me €30 in cash. The seller asked for my passport for identity verification and told me the SIM would be activated after approximately one hour. He also mentioned that €10 was included as a credit that I could use later.

I'm new to Germany, so I'm not entirely familiar with how prepaid SIM cards are sold here.

My questions are:

  1. Is €30 a normal price for this SIM when purchased from a Vodafone partner shop, or does it seem unusually high?

  2. Is identity verification normally included in the purchase, or can a retailer legitimately charge an additional fee for it?

  3. What exactly does the €10 starting credit cover? Is it separate from the €9.99 plan price, or is it used to pay for the plan?

  4. What should I check once the SIM is activated to confirm that I received what I paid for?

I just want to understand the pricing and whether I should ask for an explanation.


r/AskAGerman • • 2d ago

Invited to a BD party, host says no gifts needed, is it weird to still bring one?

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I am invited to this BD party and the host message says the following:

Geschenke möchten wir ausdrücklich nicht - ihr beschenkt uns mit eurer Anwesenheit (und durch Getränkekonsum für den Mindestumsatz der Location)

I don’t really drink that much so at most I will have 2 drinks there. I would also like to bring them a small gift like a bottle of wine or chocolate but I don’t know if that would be considered weird especially if none of the other guests do. What do you think?


r/AskAGerman • • 2d ago

Bin ich dämlich oder nutze ich die Active O2 Wasserflaschen immer falsch?

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Immer wenn ich aus denen trinke muss ich 5 Minuten reinblasen, weil die verformt ist und keine Luft wieder reinkommt. Habe ich eine Funktion übersehen und einfach nur neben der Spur oder ist es so ein allgemeines Problem bei so Flaschen?


r/AskAGerman • • 2d ago

Is there anything that actually works for thin walls in a German flat?

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Hi everyone,

I’m an international student living in a shared flat in a WG. The walls are very thin, so everyone in the flat can hear whatever the others do. My roommate has told me that the noise from me bothers them, and I want to fix it in a considerate way.

The noise is mostly [cooking / calls from my room/ water noises from washroom at early mornings/ late-night activity].

Questions:

  1. Is there anything else that actually works for thin walls in a German flat?
  2. Is it normal to agree on quiet hours stricter than the legal 22:00 to 6:00?
  3. Any product recommendations (door seals, rugs, pads) that are available in Germany?

Thanks a lot for any advice!


r/AskAGerman • • 3d ago

Book lovers i need your help

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Guys, I need some help with something. My German friend’s birthday is coming up, and she loves reading, so I was thinking about getting her a book as a gift.
She’s in her late 30s and struggles with depression, self doubt and self hatred. She’s the kind of person who always puts everyone else before herself and rarely thinks about her own needs.
I was wondering if there’s a book in German that could help her appreciate herself a little more, be kinder to herself and maybe see herself in a better light. German is the only language she speaks, so the book would need to be in German.
If anyone has any recommendations, I’d really appreciate it. I genuinely want to get her something that might make her feel a little better about herself. Thanks, guys


r/AskAGerman • • 3d ago

Personal Sim card, internet, check24 page

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I’m looking at getting a German phone number. I checked on Check24 since I have seen here several posts recommending to check there.

I seem to have found one that covers what I need: a german phone number and unlimited internet. I was also thinking of using this as my home internet. I work from home occasionally and will only deal with typical video calls, researches and emails. No streaming of movies etc.
The company which could fit my needs found through this Check24 is called: Unlimited Mobile and has O2 Netz.

Thing is that due to the strict laws in Germany about defamation I can’t really trust the reviews. Therefore I would appreciate your personal experiences or recommendations or if I’m missing out on something.

How is the internet coverage and customer service? How easy is it to contact them?

I had vodafone before and it was very hard to get to a human agent and secondly even harder as my German is not that advanced.


r/AskAGerman • • 3d ago

Language Dialekt und Wirkung

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Ich komme aus Oberbayern, wo Dialekt im Alltag nach wie vor ziemlich präsent ist. In meinem Umfeld ist mir dabei aufgefallen, dass ich persönlich eine recht ausgeprägte Präferenz für bestimmte Sprechweisen habe.
Ich würde grob drei Arten der deutschen Aussprache unterscheiden:
Starker Dialekt: Menschen, die ausgeprägtes Bairisch sprechen. Teilweise so stark, dass es für Menschen aus anderen Regionen kaum verständlich ist. Das kann mir persönlich schon zu viel werden.
Dialektal gefärbtes Hochdeutsch: Im Grunde Standarddeutsch, allerdings mit einer deutlich hörbaren regionalen Aussprache. Genau diese Mischung gefällt mir persönlich am besten. Man versteht alles problemlos, hört aber trotzdem sofort, wo jemand ungefähr herkommt. Ich würde mich selbst in dieser Kategorie einordnen.
Ethnolektal geprägtes Deutsch: Bestimmte Ausspracheweisen, die beispielsweise häufig mit Kiezdeutsch assoziiert werden. Ich meine damit ausdrücklich phonetische Merkmale und nicht Herkunft oder ethnische Zugehörigkeit. Beispielsweise bestimmte Vokale und die Aussprache von Lauten wie „ch“.
Meine persönliche Einstellung geht sogar so weit, dass ich Menschen, die ausschließlich akzentfreies Hochdeutsch sprechen, zunächst grundsätzlich unsympathischer finde. Mir fehlt dabei irgendwie eine sprachliche Eigenheit und regionale Identität.
Mir ist bewusst, dass das eine ziemlich subjektive und möglicherweise auch voreingenommene Einstellung ist. Trotzdem interessiert mich, wie andere das wahrnehmen.
Meine Fragen an euch:
Habt ihr eine grundsätzliche Präferenz für bestimmte Dialekte oder Akzente?
Findet ihr Menschen mit Dialekt sympathischer als Menschen, die Hochdeutsch sprechen?
Gibt es Sprechweisen, die ihr persönlich als besonders angenehm oder unangenehm empfindet?
Nehmt ihr Menschen aufgrund ihrer Aussprache unbewusst anders wahr?
Mich interessieren insbesondere persönliche Erfahrungen und ehrliche Meinungen, nicht unbedingt die politisch korrekte Antwort


r/AskAGerman • • 4d ago

History What do Germans think about the Kehlsteinhaus burning down?

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r/AskAGerman • • 5d ago

Döner - How It should be ?

27 Upvotes

Hi Folks,

I relocated from Istanbul last year.

Usually we eat Döner with pommes, tomato, pepper or onion in it - nothing else.

So I am wondering If I go to Döner shop is it weird to ask pommes inside of the brot or döner wrap ?

Would you consider doner with pommes as weird stuff ?


r/AskAGerman • • 6d ago

Culture Was sind Beispiele für die besten deutschen Kriminalgeschichten (Bücher, Filme, Fernsehsendungen)?

11 Upvotes

Hallo! Ich liebe Krimis, und Deutschland hat da einiges vom Besten zu bieten.

Ich würde mich freuen, wenn ihr eure Favoriten mit mir teilen könntet. Egal ob Filme, Fernsehsendungen oder Bücher – alles ist willkommen!

Vielen Dank!


r/AskAGerman • • 7d ago

Culture Is this normal for germans

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So, I’ve heard that Germans are people with the most closed friend groups, but recently, I (an Indian guy in my mid-20s) made some German friends (all of them women in their late 30s with kids).
At first, I only knew one of them. When I was doing my Praktikum, she used to be my coworker, and she was really friendly and all we used to make jokes and All during work. One day, she asked me if I wanted to tag along with her and her friends for an event, which I did. We had fun talking to each other and all.
Later, they made a WhatsApp group with me, and ever since I was added to the friend group, I’ve been going out with all of them for almost every event. They even buy my tickets, and even if I insist on paying( cause i dont want to be a burden to them and i dont want them to feel like im taking advantage of our friendship), they’re like, “No, no way!!!!” (which also goes against everything I’ve heard about Germans).
I’ve been invited to hang out at their homes, we literally have things planned for each month, like trips and outings, and I’m invited to celebrate Christmas with all of them on the day after Christmas.
They’re really nice and good to me, and I try to be the same towards them. All I wanted to ask is, is this normal? Because I’ve been hearing that once Germans make their friends in childhood, then that’s it. And, you know, especially with the age gap between us and all…
Don’t get me wrong, I love their company and spending time with them. I was just confused because it goes against all the stereotypes I’ve heard about Germans.

I would love to hear what you all think, thanks yall have a nice day


r/AskAGerman • • 7d ago

Language Ideas for Deutschstammtisch Nov&Dec!

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We're running a German Stammtisch in Indiana and towards the end of year we would like to plan some themes/activities to do. As we're approaching Thanksgiving and Christmas here, was wondering if anything German ppl would recommend us do.

I know Thanksgiving is America-only so our first rough idea is have participants practice saying "Ich bin dankbar dass blablabla". Anyways we're actively collecting ideas! Vielen vielen Dank!


r/AskAGerman • • 7d ago

Work Corporate job shoes for winter

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I (26F) am starting my first full-time corporate job soon and, coming from a tropical country, I have no idea what type of shoes to wear to the office during the colder months, specially once it starts snowing. Any recommendations of brands or styles? Do people wear the same shoes they use outside or change to something more office-like once they arrive?


r/AskAGerman • • 6d ago

Food German food Culture

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I've heard that Germans very commonly eat the bread , sausages, and pork for breakfast (and sometimes other meals too), and that you drink a lot of beer (I don't understand how you don't get drunk from those huge glasses). I also find it strange that beer consumption is legal after the age of 16. Are these true?What are your thoughts on this?


r/AskAGerman • • 7d ago

Personal to ask someone out

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Do Germans generally take a long time to ask someone out? I’ve been chatting and flirting with a German guy, the idea was to go out at some point, but now we’ve been talking for 20 days everyday and no flirting so much, It’s been really great, but today I started wondering: are we just friends, or is he getting to know me better before asking me out?
Either way is fine; he’s a really nice guy.
We "met" on Tinder.


r/AskAGerman • • 7d ago

On Fernbanhof, do all doors open at every station?

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Or do only some of them open? Do I have to press a button on the door to exit?

I’m on one from Frankfurt to Hamburg. I just got on the car that was in front of me. Sometimes in the U.S., they say that for a specific station, doors only open on train car 1, 2, and 3 for example.