TDLR; 90% of artists ghost, including when already paid, I am at my wits' end.
You know it's bad when you have to resort to reddit for some answers.... Seeing as we're now over halfway through the year, and I feel relatively emptyhanded in comparison to the money I can see that I've spent, and the amount of effort and strain..... It really does get to a point.
As embarrassing as it is to admit, I'm brought to the point of tears knowing my birthday has been around the corner and I can't even get myself a fucking gift despite having plenty of money and months in advance to coordinate it, but the concept of someone being respectful and reliable enough is apparently just too much to ask for.
When I have expressed these frustrations, I have often been met with defensiveness, hostility, people victim-blaming the client end of things, people even saying I deserved it and outright admitting they would 'scam me too', dismissiveness, denial, weird threatening into silence, deliberate ignorance, just to name a few things, despite the fact I have proof of everything.
Where does this all even start? I could say this year, I could say as well as a decade ago, remembering the times I tried my damndest on every 'taking requests' opportunity from deviantart at an age where I barely understood what a commission even was.
So maybe I am actually late to the party, and perhaps I'm just missing something as to how this all works. You give the references/concept, you pay, you get the art. Should be fairly simple and straightforward, right? Couldn't be further from the truth in my case.
It's like a backwards ass catch-22 conundrum where you get pitiful lectures about supporting real artists, but oops, if you don't have any reference art to begin with, sorry, can't help you! ...Why exactly do you think I'm here?
Or, "why don't you just draw it yourself then?" Because the fucking alternative all of you preached from your soapbox was to commission real artists instead of using AI or whatever the fuck, which keep in mind, despite all of the bullshit I have endured, I still have not resorted to.
I carefully vet all of the artists I approach, so it's never been one of those obvious fake/traced/AI 'artists' that I've been ripped off by, which is all the more infuriating when these are the 'real artists' you get lectured to support, when all they've ever done is strung me along, steal my money, and play the victim.
I am probably down about 300-400$ USD (if not more) from several different artists I have struggled to work with since February. Only a very tiny fraction have actually fully completed what they were paid for, and an even smaller fraction of that was done with a normal, pleasant experience & outcome.
An artist I paid in Feb had previously been giving (what I presume to be) regular progress updates, then stopped, then suddenly came to me about wanting to redo the piece for free, which was confusing as I thought the piece was almost complete, in fact I was worried they had finished it and it didn't occur to me they had shown off the final product.
Regardless, they put it off, and despite my efforts to figure out what the hell was going on, it was quiet from them for months until I called them out publicly, and it's clear the 'redo' piece wasn't done with much consideration and I wasn't happy with the final product.
Another artist I paid in March has done fuck all after taking a payment of 101$ for a commission he has no intention of ever even STARTING, he instead resorted to playing the victim about medical issues despite the fact he has done more open commissions since then, posted an art raffle, and even advertised participating artfight.
A month after silence from him, I did the paypal chargeback, and only then did he finally bother to reach out to me, and ONLY because the negative charge was impacting his friend's account, which he guilted me into undoing.
Last month I had called him out publicly after becoming enraged upon discovering he had still been participating in artfight, to which he dug his heels in on being the victim, and alluded to the fact he had been consulting everyone else (his friends) BUT me in regards of what to do about my commission. There has once again been no word back from him since that last "conversation" despite him still being active online since then.
It's August. Still no commission, still no refund.
A young artist who was visiting from out of the country was taking commissions since she was able to use Venmo while being in the US, I paid 95$ and was met with silence once again, blocked/unadded on the platform we were initially communicating on, and then I was cussed out by her as she made excuses for not working on the commission and she either blocked me or deleted her account on that second platform I just so happened to find her on to confront her. To my knowledge, Venmo doesn't have a chargeback option like Paypal does.
Another artist I have paid about 200$ in total months ago has been quite slow with the process. I may have made the grave mistake of allowing this to slide since we had been on friendly terms and communicative on a regular basis, and they are even very familiar with my struggle and predicament... Seeing as they live in an area that was recently struck by disaster, pushing them now to complete the work feels like a dick more, doing a chargeback even more so. Though I'm not sure why I say this when it seems they've been posting art since then?
One artist who I actually had success with was very accommodating and pleasant the first time around, but when I came back to do it again, they were suddenly very standoffish to the idea and only acknowledged me in regards to the money I could offer, which was a stark contrast to my prior experience with them. To add insult to injury, they have messaged me on more than one occasion for advice on their art/advertising themselves. Feels kind of tone deaf when I very eagerly expressed working with them again before and they continued to brush it off, but will still come to me when they want something that benefits them.
I just had another artist basically drop me, generally because of the struggle to align communication (I had previously offered to pay them in advance as a token of trust due to this).
Apparently it's ok for other people to take their sweet time getting back to me, but I can't have setbacks due to being torn in multiple different directions irl (for context, I've had to fly out of state and everything that accompanies that has kept me away from the obligations I'd prefer to be focusing on since my money is involved)
Despite the fact they kept continuing on with the process without my confirmation to do so, leading to things not turning out the way I wanted (which again also has to do with the fact I have zero reference art for my characters because commissioning has been so difficult), I'm the one who once again has to sit with the loss.
Some may think that proximity/relationship could easily weed out most of the issues that come with commissioning, but it pains me to confess that even my own spouse, who is a very talented artist, has also let me down on this front several times. Despite offers to pay, requests as gifts for Christmas, Birthdays, Valentine's (a piece in which I posed nude for them to use as reference), the process is met with indifference, getting my hopes up for nothing, arguments, and ultimately pieces that have all gone unfinished. Because of the lifestyle we have had to live (we move a lot) and how much their career keeps them busy, we generally don't get to do a lot together and I don't ask for very much (mostly of my own volition, since we don't struggle with money), so I had thought it would be a good, low cost 'gift' that allows us to spend time together and collaborate on something, but I was very mistaken...
I have entirely given up on having any of their support in this avenue of my life. Despite the fact I have never asked to use their money for it or involve them in any way, we still get into arguments about it.
One artist was very lovely from the get-go, I was super supportive to their cause (what the money from commissions would be going towards), they were giving normal updates and being very accommodating, then again, silence... Later on I come to see on their social media how they're talking about having 'no intention of ever taking commissions', and some time after that making a post about 'quitting art' entirely. When were they ever planning on telling ME that?
These are only a very few examples of the crap I've had to deal with.
It's impossible to gauge whether or not an artist will just ghost at any point of the process, including after payment. So many artists will beg, desperate for commissions, but do no actual work when paid and continue to play the victim.
I have probably reached out to hundreds of artists at this point, on various platforms. Stuff like VGen doesn't work because of how straightforward it is, they expect you to have all the actual references ready to go and I have none of that. Many artists have turned their nose up at me for this reason, while others have it as part of their guidelines which makes them unapproachable in the first place.
I can't imagine what I could be doing wrong. I have never asked for anything unsavory, it has overwhelmingly just been the bare minimum of having a face to the name of characters I've created YEARS ago, to maybe, just maybe, make future endeavors just the slightest bit easier. Even with my google docs of photo collages and written references has been met with conflicting feedback, ironically so as it's often spat out as a thoughtless alternative. I'm not 12 years old, I do not want to use picrew, especially when I have the means to commission.
It hurts me deeply because I cannot do it myself no matter how much I've tried. I used to draw, I had for years, but for some reason all my current attempts to improve are only met with strain (including physical pain to my wrist). That's not even mentioning how absolutely nasty people on Reddit (or even in general) are to artists trying to improve, because god forbid someone hasn't magically improved in the time frame that's considered acceptable. Thought we wanted people to pick up a pencil, yeah? Why make them feel like shit when they do? Damned if you do, damned if you don't!
I cannot translate all of the effort of my ideas/creations in a way that matters in a world where art objectively dominates these communities. Seeing the constantly peddled fix-all solution of "just commission artists!" continue to fall on its face for me feels like adding piss to the open wound.
For the longest time, I thought the only thing holding me back was my willingness to put my money down. People always talk about art in terms of commissioning being a luxury, but when I pull up being able to afford said luxury, suddenly they can't deliver on their end.
It's probably ridiculous of me to keep trying but I am still currently in the process with a few other artists, so I have to sit in this state of dread like a hostage situation of my money until the very moment the final piece is delivered because again, no matter how seemingly normal or promising the circumstances are, Murphy's Law is sure to rear its ugly head.
I have no idea how this will be received, but this has been weighing on me for years upon years now, and it's hitting me heavily this year with how much of my effort, time, patience and money has been put through the wringer for something that really shouldn't be this difficult.
I am tired of constantly entering this cycle over and over again. I want real results and accountability.