To be clear, the court has later clarified that there are exception to this rule, like for example, a DNA test. However, the court is not going to order a DNA test on the basis of a "mere allegation". And forcing a woman to give her consent to DNA test - well, good luck with that.

As a father of 2 kids (even though they are seperated from me due to my wife), I felt absolute rage after reading this.

The women aborted her child (for promotion) without telling her husband - and I cannot even fathom what must be going on in his mind. Not only will he be emotionally shattered, a women who can do this can do much more behind her husband's back.

What the absolute f**k has the world come to ? I am in shock.

Same

Suicide is not an option. This is a recent case and a lot many that don't get reported. I have helped 3 people personally. I'm not a lawyer, and a lot of lawyers view men as cash cows in divorce cases. Each case is unique. I will explain comments on how to fight back rather than suffering biased laws.

To all the men who are in arranged marriage set up, reject a girl as soon as you have even the slightest hint that something is off.

The stories I read in news everyday and the kind of stuff I see happening around me is just making me deeply suspicious of almost everyone in arranged marriage.

I have this friend who considered herself very "progressive" and always scoffed at the prospect of settling for an arranged marriage cos it was a "regressive patriarchal setup" as per her. So this friend who is working in BLR went on multiple dates trying to find Mr. Perfect. Obviously, these dates were not completely platonic and things escalated in quite a lot of these dates. I am not sure but it seems she even had a brief stint where she was in a live-in relationship.

She met a lot of men who eventually dated her for a few months and then left her or she left them. None of it worked. Now the dating app fatigue has set in her and guess what? She wants to tap the same regressive patriarchal arranged marriage market. Can you look at her hypocrisy??

I don't know what she plans to say to her prospects but I am 90% sure she won't reveal the entire truth because most arranged marriage guys would reject her the moment they get to know how many times she's been in situationships, hookups etc.

Be very careful out there is all I am saying.

These feminist women (she's a feminist btw) only trash arranged marriage as long as they think they can find someone via dating. The moment they know their dating era is over or they have developed dating fatigue, these same women shamelessly tap the same arranged marriage market and lie about their whole dating history or just provide a white washed lie.

Better to remain single I would say.

Simps and feminists, please stay away and don't give me a moral lecture here. This post is intended for folks who eventually end up becoming Ketan Agarwals of the society.

Reports to be out soon

This has happened with a relative of mine.

He is conventionally good looking and earns 10LPA, being a civil engineer, the scope of increase in earnings is rather limited as compared to other fields like computer science, finance etc.

He met with a CA in his office and both of them fell in love and married. At the time of marriage itself my relative was at 10LPA and this CA at 15LPA.

Now the CA got some FP&A role at a startup and her CTC is 25LPA while my relative is still at 10LPA.

The other day his mother came over and she was almost weeping that the girl has started taunting everyone that they are just sitting free at home, how no one apart from her is pulling their weight in the household, how everyone just wants her to work blah blah blah.

She is not doing any household work btw, there is a cook and a maid which my relative pays for. Now the woman wanted a bigger car and my cousin straight up said he can't contribute to its EMI and that became a big fight in their house.

Before marriage, it was all lovey dovey and the woman was like, I don't care even if you're unemployed, I just want you in my life blah blah blah.

Now after marriage, everything has changed, she is becoming resentful that the broader family isn't able to match her in terms of earnings.

Just like how women keep blabbering in the other subreddit that the true character comes out AFTER marriage, same is true for them too. No matter how much a woman says she is okay being the earning member, its never true. Only becomes a bigger headache for entire family later on.

Never marry a girl earning more, you will most likely regret once the love wears out.

Have you guys ever seen any such instances?

Edit - There are some NRI folks here who are like "My wife earns more than me but we are still living happily". Don't fall for their BS trap.

They are usually very high earning folks or couples who have a lot of inherited wealth where this arrangement works. Husband earns 50LPA and wife earns 60LPA. Technically wife earns more but there is nothing that the husband can't afford in his 50LPA lifestyle that the wife can. So it all works out at the end of the day.

The real problem happens at the lower end. My cousin at 10LPA can never even dream beyond alto whereas his wife at 25LPA would definitely want a Creta. This isn't just about cars, it extends beyond that. A 10LPA can never dream of foreign vacation, 25LPA requires at least 1 South East vacation every year.

Think about the significant differences in lifestyle between a 10LPA and 25LPA and you can see how the cracks start to emerge.

But for some lodu NRI folks on this subreddit, everything is an "echo chamber"

just want to know men's pov.

I (33M) have been seeing a woman (29F) I met on Bumble. We've been on several dates and things were going well.

The other day we were being intimate, and she said, "My husband does this in a different way." That was the first time I'd heard she was married. She never mentioned it on the app, on our dates, or in any of our conversations.

I was shocked, but I didn't say anything in the moment, and we finished. Afterward she didn't bring it up or explain, and she acted like nothing had happened.

I haven't confronted her yet because I'm still processing it. I feel deceived, and I don't know whether she's separated, in an open marriage, or just cheating and hiding it.

I'm not okay with being involved with someone who's married, especially without being told. Should I ask her directly, or just walk away? Has anyone been in a similar situation?

My Very Realistic Expectations From My Future Wife

After carefully studying the modern dating and marriage market, I’ve decided that the most optimal career path for me is becoming a full-time homemaker.

Why?
Because for men like me, this is clearly the safest option, especially when combined with our gender-neutral alimony laws.

For context, let me be honest about myself first:

• I’m not highly educated
• I don’t have a great job
• I’m not financially stable
• I’m vulnerable in several areas of life

Naturally, I believe balance is important in a relationship.

About me:

• I’m very open-minded
• I have no physical intimacy needs
• I don’t use social media
• I don’t consume even soft porn
• I’m willing to cut off anything or anyone that makes her insecure
• Can offer :
  • Emotional support and availability
  • Loyalty and long-term commitment
  • Peaceful, low-drama companionship
  • Willingness to listen and communicate honestly
  • Respect for boundaries and individuality

I’ve also been learning cooking for the past year:

• I can cook various non-veg dishes
• I can use a pressure cooker
• I can make tadka dal
• I can make rotis and puris
• I can prepare premium bread-based dishes
• I can cook pasta, macaroni, and a variety of Italian dishes

Even though i can do chores having a maid is mandatory because cleaning a 3BHK and doing dishes is not part of my vision.

What I expect from my wife:

• Must be a truly independent woman
• She should earn at least ₹50 LPA for a comfortable lifestyle
• She should own at least a 3BHK apartment in Mumbai (I won’t be leaving the city where i grew up)
• She should occasionally order food or take me out for nice weekend dining
• I don’t mind living with in-laws, as long as they don’t judge me for being financially dependent while I grind on my PS5 ✌️🤧
• I won’t mind my in-laws doing household chores if we’re living with them 😊
• For my future security, 50% of her property should be in my name
• She must buy me a new game every week if she truly respect my grind
• She shouldn’t mind my friends coming over to play games when she’s not home
• I won’t judge her for hanging out with male or female friends as long as there’s no cheating
• Her past doesn’t matter to me at all 😊
• Having kids will be entirely her choice
• I can’t get biologically pregnant anyway, so adoption or IVF works and i have good experience of babysitting as well
• She should know how to ride a motorcycle, since I don’t, so I can sit side-saddle and hold her waist
• Her age doesn’t matter much, as long as she’s not too old to ride a bike (No, I don’t have mommy issues)
• Since I’m timid, naive, and weak, she should take a stand for me
• She should afford or take me on at least two international vacations every year

I believe these are bare minimum expectations as a homemaker who grew up in T1 city.
Hopefully, I’m not asking for too much.🤧

TL;DR:
My wife should earn ₹50 LPA, own a 3BHK in Mumbai, and fund my PS5 lifestyle while I grind on it peacefully.

This question is for men around 28-32 years of age. If looking for marriage, do u all think that 30 around females will definitely have a past if she is not married yet? For me personally, recently turned 30, I never had a relationship because no guy ever approached me. I am not very extrovert or extra friendly types, and my groups were mostly girls only. It's just this simple. Yes I never had any relationship. I am decent looking and have got many compliments from males also. And whenever I tellt his to anyone, they feel I'm just lying. What's your take on it?

I have seen a lot on social media and real life too , when a guy who gets a girlfriend who is relatively average looking or below average other men says " langoor ke haath mai angoor" etc etc degrading things. And the hypocrisy man kills me , these are the same people who blames women for their choices and be a cry baby when they see a girl choosing a guy who is good looking and become black pilled. Like wtf these people want ? It's so frustrating to see this.

So I came across a post from the same sub about a virgin boy dating a non virgin girl. All most all of the response was ‘ date her but don’t marry her and enjoy time with her’ now why is she not a marriage material cuz anyway he’s gonna loose his virginity with her and if he end up marrying a virgin girl then it’s not justified right??? It is hypocrisy right???

I’m 28 and earn around ₹45 LPA. I’m currently in the arranged marriage process and speaking with a woman who’s 30 and earns about ₹30 LPA.

For men who married high-earning, career-focused women, how has married life been? What have been the biggest advantages and challenges?

My parents are somewhat skeptical about marrying a highly career-oriented woman. Their concern comes from seeing cases of divorce and marital disputes among dual-career couples in our social circle. They feel a more home-oriented partner may lead to a more stable family life.

Personally, I’m not sure whether those examples are representative or just isolated cases.

What has your experience been like?

So I am currently in a AM setup. We got rokafied in March 2026, engaged in July 2026 and will get married in Jan 2027. Our families know each other. We are nearly of the same age and I like to talk to her as well. So things are going decently with a few bumps on the road.

The thing I am wondering is, yesterday she jokingly said that she thinks my younger brother has more brains than me. The issue was pretty trivial tbh. From her POV it was a joke. She was laughing, and joking and pulling my leg.

But this comment didn't sit well with me. I didn't get very angry or something like that. But it resulted in an argument that extended to today and well now I am blocked from everywhere.

Also she fails to recognise her mistake. From her POV she was just joking and she now thinks that I am being insecure and she despises that.

So that's my question fellow men. Am I really overreacting? I am ready to go back and apologise if you guys can change my mind.

But from my POV calling me dumber than my younger brother is similar to me calling her sister more beautiful than her.

I was 23 when I did it for the first time with a pr0stitute. Now I am addicted to it. I still go to pr0stitutes. I know it's highly risky because I can get AIDS and other STDs but I can't do anything about it.

How many of you did their first time with a pr0stitute?

Guys, what's the minimum income you'd expect your partner to earn monthly?